Another raaaaaaaaaape!!!

[Mermaid]

People, including the police department, said these VERY same things to me. I should be more careful and was partially to blame for walking alone at night. Was I?

I don't know.

How late was it?
Do you live on a dark street?
Are there ample places for an assailant to hide?
Is it in a neighborhood that has a relatively high crime rate?

Keep in mind, like I and everyone else has said in this thread: RAPE IS THE FAULT OF THE RAPIST

What we're trying to say is that people assume a certain amount of risk with whatever they do - driving on the highway, going to parties, and, yes, walking alone at night.  The point is to not exacerbate that risk by being an idiot.  Jumping in a shower with a drunk stranger and kissing them is stupidly risky.  

Walking alone at night?  Far less risky, although, it definitely depends on the circumstance.  For example, my old college campus was notorious for nighttime rapes and the faculty and campus police urged everyone walking at night to do so at least in pairs, if not greater numbers, to mitigate risk.

Your attempts to paint me and Aegon as some kind of misogynistic assholes misses the mark.  Shit, my cousin/god mother was molested for at least 8 years of her childhood by my own fucking father, and she kept it quiet because she knew that the family needed his income because of my ample medical bills.  While I've never been the victim of rape itself, my mere fucking existence forced someone I love dearly to have to go through pain and humiliation and fear I cannot imagine.  If you don't think I'm sympathetic to rape victims because I think everyone - male, female, non-cisgendered, old, young, black, white, whatever - should be a bit smarter across the board in order to mitigate the risk (not just the risk of getting raped, but all risk) they inevitably face in life rather than bumbling around and increasing risk in an idiotic fashion, I don't know what to tell you.

I am in NO WAY attempting to paint ANYONE as a misogynist. Please do not put words in my mouth. I have no desire to antagonize. That is the opposite of why I am participating in this thread. I NEVER said you were not sympathtic. Please stop trying to paint me as an angry, misandrist feminist.

I am just speaking as someone who knows what it's like on the other side of that fence. My hope is that it will help with understanding, perhaps that's naive of me.

To your list of questions, how would answering either way to any of those make me at fault? This is what the police asked me as well. They told me that I shouldn't have done that. A young, cute girl should expect that sort of thing if she wasn't paying attention.