Gay, Catholic and Doing Fine

[GrandizerII]

Actually, it was a question at the start ... so perhaps your accusation about me is a straw?

Yes, it was a question at first, so when I asked you to clarify, you pointed me to where he said he wishes everyone's life was as beautiful as his, telling me that's where he said he wants everyone to suffer. 

But that said, you didn't really answer about what he meant by hard if it did not involve suffering? And you can't change the fact that, in the article, he did wish such life on others. Doesn't matter if he has some cognitive dissonance going on that makes him call it beautiful even though he acknowledges it's hard and that there's restrictions on how he lives.

He meant hard as in, it's hard to resist temptation to do something that he believes is the wrong thing. But in the end it's rewarding enough to make it worth it. I don't think it's that hard of a concept to understand. 

It's like me and my husband dating for 4 1/2 years but not having sex. It was super difficult, but very rewarding to know that we were following God's plan for us, and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

Yeah ... well, try not having sex for life. Let's see if you would wish such a beautiful life on others as well.

This is what he said exactly, by the way:

Would I trade in my Catholicism for a worldview where I get to marry a man? Would I trade in the Eucharist and the Mass and the rest of it? Being a Catholic means believing in a God who literally waits in the chapel for me, hoping I'll stop by just for ten minutes so he can pour out love and healing on my heart. Which is worth more -- all this, or getting to have sex with who I want? I wish everybody, straight or gay, had as beautiful a life as I have.

So what he refers to as an example of "beautiful" is choosing to not get married to someone he loves and not having sex with them, and wishing such "beautiful" life for others ... This might not mean he's saying he wishes all were celibate, but he certainly wishes others lived a hard life like him, a life which he happens to call "beautiful". And it does seem obvious he wishes homosexual people to be celibate like him ...

This, to me (and I'm sure to many others as well) translates to "wishing a life of suffering on others". That's all there is to it.