Yeah, I'm not quite buying this idea that Drich's experience is the norm, at least in this country. My adopted French/Vietnamese cousin has never reported to me that she experienced special anguish at her "selfish" parents not adequately preparing her for the world, despite their being ill-equipped by racial/ethnic background to teach her all she may have wanted to know about her Vietnamese heritage. For that matter, my Korean wife and her Korean sister (not blood relatives but sisters through adoption) have never mentioned to me any sense of being deprived of their heritage or sense of belonging despite being raised in a white American home where the father was a secular Jew and the mother a practicing Protestant. In fact, my wife moves with ease between several different "communities" of people. I have a mixed race nephew (Korean/African-American) who doesn't suffer unduly; indeed, he seems to be one of the most popular kids in his class and has friends from a variety of backgrounds. The same is true of a niece from a previous marriage (white/African-American) who was similarly popular with her peers and at ease with both sides of her family. Then there's my gay cousin, his husband, and their adopted daughter. She's a bit young to give me an "informed opinion" on the matter, but I'll be sure to get back to you, Drich, if it turns out she would rather have been bounced around some foster homes or adopted by someone other than the only fathers she has ever known and who love her fiercely.
I'm sorry you had a rough go of it, Drich. But yours isn't the only experience that's relevant here. Just because you were surrounded by assholes doesn't mean everyone out there is an asshole.
I'm sorry you had a rough go of it, Drich. But yours isn't the only experience that's relevant here. Just because you were surrounded by assholes doesn't mean everyone out there is an asshole.