(April 17, 2016 at 6:36 am)Mathilda Wrote: Atlas speaks the truth here. I have spoken to many people who have fetishes from their childhood because of how they were disciplined by their parents. Hell, I've spanked most of them myself.
If you paddle a child and tell them that it's for their own good, then they start to see this as an act of love. And if you aren't doing it for their own good then it's just abuse. So the child grows up wanting to be paddled.
I've spoken to a Catholic woman who had a fetish for being crucified because she was brought up in a Catholic school and made to idolise Jesus on a cross. She also fantasised about making love to Jesus while he was on the cross. I spoke to another catholic woman who was still being spanked by her parents in her early twenties and she wanted a husband who would continue doing the same to her so she could lovingly submit to it. This is a well known phenomenon in the BDSM community.
Twinned with Christian self hatred and repression, enjoyment through pain can become quite cathartic. It's like crying at a chick flick or doing a work-out. Pain releases endorphins in the brain which can lead to a natural high called subspace.
That made sense. I can totally relate.
Ah, that cross thingy though is perhaps an in-between BDSM and Necrophilia? hell, childhood incidents can sure produce a disfigured sexual derive, the problem is that it's only fun in your own brain.
The environment at childhood helps in reshaping kids beyond measure, actually I feel guilty sometimes when I smoke in front of kids for example, I feel that they will grow to hold the cig, especially when they keep looking and you feel that their eyes are recording.
I know for sure that smelling tobacco as a kid made me wish to smoke.
But when the closest people to you act, it becomes even more tempting for them actions to be embedded inside of you, shaping your desires and chemistry.
Domination though, and breaking the kid's will, is one disastrous method of raising.
But some adult "feminine" spanking won't hurt; indeed.
Abaris
Agreed. Totally.
