(April 21, 2016 at 1:34 pm)Divinity Wrote: I raised six kids. Two daughters, three sons, one sister. Mostly by myself. I never once hit any of my kids. All but one of them turned out great. The other is just a douche. I blame his father. DNA is responsible for that one. But he's still not violent. All of them are adults now, all but my sister are married, most of them have kids. (Only my sister and my youngest daughter doesn't, and she's a lesbian). Their kids are turning out okay too, and they don't spank either because I didn't raise them that way.No offense, but you can also lower your expectation and definition of the word. so matter what they do (unless they just piss you off) they in your eye are just good people.
You know how you get kids to turn out good? Be involved with their lives. Show them love, support, and compassion. Give appropriate discipline when necessary.
Quote:I was a very lenient mother. My kids could get away with pretty much everything. You know why they turned out well?Yeah, I do. for the same reason Ma Barker also thought her boys could do no wrong.
Quote:Because they learned the lessons they needed to learn. You know why they did? Because I made sure they did, and i didn't need to spank them to get through to them. I wonder how these people get through to their kids when they get too old for spankings.It depends on the kid if you do it right and you have the right kid you may not have to do it but a hand full of times ever.
If your still spanking after ten either something is wrong with what you are doing or something is not right with the kid and he/she may need "special" rules and constant attention.
