(April 21, 2016 at 10:49 pm)Losty Wrote:(April 21, 2016 at 4:30 pm)Napoléon Wrote: Give women equal pay but still expect the man to pay for dinner on the first date ayyyy what you sayin'?
It's refreshing to say that even though I live in South Georgia (red and Bible Belt) I don't think this is common practice anymore. Unfortunately I think it's partially because people don't really date before they move in together anymore.
Maybe in that part of the country. It is the babble belt. I think selling the utopia of "forever" is a bullshit way of selling marriage. What makes a marriage work, or even just dating work long term is compatibility, good communication skills and planning. Selling one day and a short paragraph oath as magic cure doesn't insure anything long term. It is an impractical ceremony "just because" without all the other things I said.
Marriage is sold unfortunately, just like impractical gas hog sports cars, sold on appeal to emotion. It is not for everyone and it should not be sold as such, the person in that relationship is the only person who should get to decide, and should also be willing to part company without bitterness if things don't work out. In reality people's feelings for each other do change, and that ceremonial oath often when people realize they don't want to be in it any longer, can cause partners to lie and have affairs, either out of not wanting to hurt the other's feelings, or out of spite. And it can cause bitter feelings even to the point of revenge, and that can get even worse when kids are involved.
Marriage is far to easy to get into and far to hard to get out of. And not everyone wants to get married or have kids in any case. It is better to raise a kid to find their own comfort level and teach them good communication skills if or when they decide to have a relationship.
