Sex with a bigot?

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What I said was that it may mean as little to someone as that. I'm not saying it does mean that to everyone.

Of course, it's going to mean different things to different people. What I'm saying is playing a game of chess isn't a great level of intimacy, so I'd share that experience perhaps with someone who I didn't necessarily like that much, or without getting to know them even. But the more intimate experiences are, the more I'd reduce who I'm prepare to do them with. That's just me, I'm not telling anyone else what to do. It's up to each person who they do what with, it's no business of mine. Personally, inviting them to my house to play chess would be more intimate. There's less people I'd be prepared to do that with. And so on.

I'm just saying in my case, sex is never casual, so I would never do it with someone unless I felt very close to them. It always means a great deal to me. My point is I don't expect anyone else to feel the same way. I'm not saying it necessarily means nothing; that would be the extreme example of someone who would likely care much less who they slept with. And that's up to them, it's not a judgement.