I hate Church and still feel obligated to go

[dragonman73]

Good for you, for making a clear decision about it. I honestly think it's the right one.

I agree that there is compromise in any relationship, especially marriage. But there's a point at which compromise becomes "compromising yourself". That's when things have gone too far. In my opinion, no relationship is worth that.

I'm glad it worked out reasonably well. I hope your wife continues to respect your position. If she starts trying to emotionally blackmail you, it's her that is creating the problem and personally I wouldn't stand for anything like that.

I'm sad she thinks it's "just a phase", it's rather patronising. But I don't want to assume too much about you and your wife, so I won't say any more!

It's ok, I get it. I know everybody's situation is different and I def don't want anyone making assumptions. But yeah while she had mentioned it lately, she's still hung up on "my salvation" and I guess any attempt to be at church gives her hope.

I've asked her why she believes several times and she's never given me a straight answer. She just believes because she does...that's about it.

But I have been very clear why I don't believe, and I think they are legitimate answers. Most of it falls back on no evidence of miracles or events that actually happened...and the fact that science has disproved most of Biblical claims and what it can't disprove isn't even testable because it doesn't exist.

Plus the fact the Bible is downright silly in most of it's scriptures, contradicts itself, and full of hate, rape, and killings. Not the sugar coated stuff thats always talked about in  Church.

And with all of the hypocrisy and hate towards the LGBT community lately, that's not something I want to be associated with. I'm actually more tolerant towards other groups since I stopped believing in the Bible.

But I guarantee you that catfish / seafood restaurants  and Christians go hand in hand in my area. They love their shellfish, especially after Church on Sundays.

Wife has opened up a little, but for the most part she still shuts down when I start asking her to reason why she believes what she does and is there any fact to the claims.  

Her whole identity and friends are tied with Church, and I get it. She doesn't want to lose that, even though she's not a practicing Christian. Heck she cusses like a sailor sometimes lol.