(August 20, 2016 at 5:14 pm)Whateverist Wrote:(August 20, 2016 at 4:37 pm)Nymphadora Wrote: Judging from his behavior and how he has been for the last 11 years, I'd say psychopathic narcissist fits him to a tee.
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Narcissism, in it's most horrendous form, allows the narcissist to continue manipulating and abusing their victim. Once a narcissist has made a decision, he/she will stop at nothing to hurt their victim and then swoop in to become the rescuer, thereby creating a constant supply on which to feed. Unless the victim finally becomes aware of this tactic, they will forever be left wondering what they did wrong to deserve the kind of often confusing treatment they receive from the narcissist. Meanwhile, the narcissist, having love-bombed their victim, is put on a pedestal by the victim because of the successful manipulation by the narcissist. The narcissist knows this is all a game of cat and mouse and loves to use their victim as a play toy. Once the victim becomes wise to the narcissists tactics and they can see through the narcissist's mask, the narcissist either promptly disposes of the victim, in search of another or they beg for another chance, often promising to change, but rarely are capable of doing so.
Removing the narcissists mask is also a surefire way to ensure that more desparate actions are to follow if the narc cannot find a new victim for their need of supply.
I think you may just be using your ex as the definition for "narcissism" when he may have something far worse. Could he be a psychopath or just some garden variety mean, sadistic SOB?
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
