(August 20, 2016 at 8:05 pm)Excited Penguin Wrote: Nymph, I can't imagine what you've gone through with that man, nor did I intend to come across as if I did. What I said came out very wrong, and I'm sorry for that. I don't want to aggravate my mistake, but I'll try to explain what I meant.
I didn't question your judgement of his character, I simply wondered if you aren't prone to judge others harsher than they deserve based on a slight resemblance of character they might have with him, which might not run that deep upon closer inspection. That's all.
Well, I try to consider that everyone is different. I know some people are not near as bad as my ex is. But even I have to admit, given my experience, think many (not all) tend to get worse given the right scenario.
I'm more than willing to own that. My ex caused me to be diagnosed with PTSD and thanks to some of the shit he got away with, I'm constantly looking over my shoulder, checking my doors, seeing who's driving down my street, etc. Because of him, I've had serious trust issues for several years now.
There are many days when I hate myself for what was done to me and for not having the common sense to see it sooner.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
