Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)

[KevinM1]

Meh, humiliation is an emotion you must invest in in order for its threat to be potent. Any woman wants to make fun of me because her friend told me "no", that's a woman who's crossed herself off my list for her shallow vanity and concern over conformity.

Yup. It goes back to "why do you care about what other people think when they've demonstrated their own idiocy?"

I mean unless this university girl's friends harassed you (which is something that should've been documented and reported to school officials), then all that really happened was you dodging a bullet. Because, trust me, you don't want to date a girl that hangs out with shallow, bitchy friends.

I don't understand why you don't want to have a relationship based on interests. You need to have something in common with the person you want a relationship with. Moreover, it's the perfect way to organically meet someone rather than making a big show (with all that added pressure) of asking someone out on an Official Date™.

The best relationships are those that start off as genuine friendship and blossom into something more. Why? Because a lasting romantic relationship has friendship as its base. Your partner is supposed to be someone you enjoy spending time with and talking to. The romantic part is layered on top of that. That's why there's a 'honeymoon period', and why transitioning out of that phase is so revealing. A lot of times, it turns out it was just a fling, and once the excitement and novelty wears off, there's nothing meaningful there.

So my advice is:

1. Relax. Don't elevate attractive people (or anyone, really) above your own sense of self-worth. To paraphrase something from The 40 Year Old Virgin (apologies in advance, ladies), you need to stop putting pussy on a pedestal. Physical beauty says nothing about intelligence or character, which are attributes far more worthy of your attention. Moreover, try to de-mystify the idea of a date. Culturally, we put a ton of weight on a first date, almost to the point of reverence. It's dumb. Don't buy into the hype. And an easy way to reduce the stress is to...

2. Find some kind of activity you enjoy or would like to try and make friends. If one of them is an attractive female, maybe ask them to go get a bite to eat or something else totally casual that doesn't put her on the spot and force her to decide if the relationship will be upgraded then and there. Remember: she has the right to say no. But playing cool gives you a chance to keep the friendship intact if she does say no, and it removes most of the "I think you're pretty. Want to go out with me?" awkwardness.