Does marital reconciliation work?
May 19, 2011 at 12:40 am
(This post was last modified: May 19, 2011 at 12:43 am by Oldandeasilyconfused.)
I ask this because I've been having what can only be described as "a platonic affair" with a woman who is the love of my life, for the last nine months.
She lives in Townsville,over 2000 miles away. .We've been emailing,chatting on Facebook, and phoning.I've been up to see her twice and was going up again in 2 weeks. She's been down here twice although not specifically to see me.
Hubby left her over a year ago. They had been together for 8 years,married for 4 years.Since he left,she's been alone, miserable and very lonely. He's had a girlfriend,and was still seeing her in February, but I don't know since then. She contacted me in September last year,telling me (after 8 years) that she still missed me and still loves me.
Last Sunday (may 14) I received a normal chatty email,telling me about the new TV. In the last , 2 sentence paragraph, she told me she and he are reconciling. I presume his idea;she had told me she did not want the marriage back.She wants us to still be friends,ending with "please believe I love you dearly"
My knee jerk but visceral response was that I believe she loves me dearly, just as she does her dog, and in about a 1000 word rant, to fuck off and leave me alone. I ended with "Please don't tell me when the wheels fall off your freshly painted little red wagon. (and they almost certainly will)"
I'm guess I'm asking for opinions from sheer schadenfreude.What are the chances of the reconciliation working? I think minimal,but I'm far too close to be objective. I want the opinion of some disinterested third parties.
Why am I so bitter? I wasn't exaggerating in calling her "the love of my life". I've been in love with her for seventeen years. This is the third time I've lost her. I'm fed up and feeling more than a little pathetic and ridiculous as well as deep anguish.
She lives in Townsville,over 2000 miles away. .We've been emailing,chatting on Facebook, and phoning.I've been up to see her twice and was going up again in 2 weeks. She's been down here twice although not specifically to see me.
Hubby left her over a year ago. They had been together for 8 years,married for 4 years.Since he left,she's been alone, miserable and very lonely. He's had a girlfriend,and was still seeing her in February, but I don't know since then. She contacted me in September last year,telling me (after 8 years) that she still missed me and still loves me.
Last Sunday (may 14) I received a normal chatty email,telling me about the new TV. In the last , 2 sentence paragraph, she told me she and he are reconciling. I presume his idea;she had told me she did not want the marriage back.She wants us to still be friends,ending with "please believe I love you dearly"
My knee jerk but visceral response was that I believe she loves me dearly, just as she does her dog, and in about a 1000 word rant, to fuck off and leave me alone. I ended with "Please don't tell me when the wheels fall off your freshly painted little red wagon. (and they almost certainly will)"
I'm guess I'm asking for opinions from sheer schadenfreude.What are the chances of the reconciliation working? I think minimal,but I'm far too close to be objective. I want the opinion of some disinterested third parties.
Why am I so bitter? I wasn't exaggerating in calling her "the love of my life". I've been in love with her for seventeen years. This is the third time I've lost her. I'm fed up and feeling more than a little pathetic and ridiculous as well as deep anguish.
