Is there a right way to romantically connect with others?

[Arkilogue]

So the Bonobo's are doing it wrong?

http://www.cnn.com/2016/05/07/opinions/m...os-safina/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sex...ve-and-sex

What's morally right for a bonobo, in my opinion, isn't necessarily right for a human being.

So the question is are they doing it wrong?  

In their society sex with infants is common.  The male has no guarantee that the baby is his and doesn't participate in raising the child at all.

It seems that their path of evolution has made this behavior the best that works for them, their bodies seem to be geared towards using sex as basically their version of a handshake or some form of casual comfort.

In human society the standard trend seems to be that fathers want to look after their own children.  And that there's a taboo on sex with children possibly related to the fact that in most human cultures sex is seen as something more signficant than a handshake or a pat on the back to comfort someone.


From what I can gather in our society, fathers doing nothing to raise their children and sex with infants only seems to have bad outcomes for our species.

That's just my guess, you could go back in time and somehow coerse the human species to adopt bonobo culture from the dawn of humanity and it might result in something amazing, my guess is though that our behaviors suit our psychology and biology.

Do they have morals? Do they think "I really want to take the food from the other ape but it's morally wrong so I won't"? Certainly they learn pleasure/pain responses but do they cognitively self inhibit actions they would otherwise do because they would feel like a bad ape?

Ignoring the strawinfant, do you think sex between consenting adults who are not married to be morally wrong?