Ethics question for theists - serious - looking for opinions not argument.

[drfuzzy]

"Let those without sin cast the first stone" comes to mind.

As for the outing person, I'd suggest to her that she speak to the priest before doing anything. She may not understand the potential ramifications of her intended action. Should people in this church be outed for other offenses? Where do they draw the line?

As for the person doing the traveling shows, I'm not sure what her motivation is to take a gay man and publicly announce that he is her husband, other than money. That is intentional deceit and I'm not sure I'm comfortable with that. She put herself in that situation and may have to pay for the consequences. I don't think you need to beg to protect her.

There is no reason that I can think of that you need to out yourself. You are being paid for a service, not for your morality.

Thanks, mh.  I appreciate it.  This person's questions got me wondering.  She's a very . . . judgmental sort of person.  

But I do agree with you (and my judgmental friend) about the deception.  It makes me uncomfortable.  I asked _____ why, and her response was that she just doesn't want people asking questions.  (Hmmm.  Not my business, though, really.)
     And it's not like she's just a con artist.  She really believes the stuff she's preaching.  (In fact, I have distanced myself a little because she gets preachy and pushy with me.  That "I'll pray for you to feel god's presence" crap can get annoying.)   She thinks that within a decade, people will be more accepting, and she'll be able to be honest about her home life.  We'll see . . .