RE: your views on modern day porn consumption
September 19, 2016 at 7:39 pm
(This post was last modified: September 19, 2016 at 7:39 pm by Thumpalumpacus.)
(September 19, 2016 at 6:32 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(September 16, 2016 at 8:42 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote: Porn is great. Mostly I don't really use it when I don't have a girlfriend though. If I'm seeing someone, I don't really bother with porn. Also those studies are always worded a certain way to try to make porn seem like it's having more of an affect then it is. There has never been a study that shows that porn has any significant effect on sexual assault. However the language in the anti-porn articles always attempts to imply that, like with this bit you quoted:
They are trying to imply there is a link between porn and violence towards women. However there is none. The reality is that porn is healthy and normal for both sexes. Most women that I've dated or have been close enough friends with to talk about such things, watch and masturbate to porn. What do they even mean by attitudes supporting violence towards women? If there is not actual increase in violence towards women (as there isn't) then it's a totally meaningless statement. Obviously whatever those attitudes (they certainly aren't clear in that article) they don't actually increase violence against women, otherwise the headline would be 'porn increases violence against women.'
The only thing of significance is that college age women are less sexually satisfied if their partner watches porn. That's a dubious stat at best, since it relies on hearsay but probably true, not because of the porn in and of itself but rather because simply because the man's sexual energy is going somewhere else other then his partner.
Also it's good to have you back.
That's good that you normally don't use porn while you have a girlfriend.
I know there's been women here who have said their husbands look at it and they don't care, but it's very different for me. I would feel devastated and betrayed if my husband had any sort of porn habit. It would make me feel inadequate and like a violation of something sacred and special that is supposed to be shared exclusively between us. But then again, that comes with the territory of having very different views of sexuality.
My son's mother and I would sometimes watch porn together -- getting ideas, working up a lather, that sort of thing. With a good woman, looking at it out of need, and more importantly keeping it secret from her, is a bit of betrayal, I think.