Ethics question for theists - serious - looking for opinions not argument.

[drfuzzy]

NV - While I think that ANY theistic belief is somewhat illogical (since there has been no proof that any deity exists) - I find lovely people in every denomination and church.  I simply don't share their beliefs.  This retreat leader is one of those people - and while I'm a little irritated with the judgmental nosy nag right now, she's usually a sweet person too.  I can't categorize whole groups of people as "scum" because of the actions of a few of their members.  

Well, AF team, guess who gets to host the "truce" meeting?  Yep, yours truly.  This Saturday.  Retreat leader called last night asking for suggestions.  She offered to meet with the "stalker bitch", and look over some of her compositions, and was regretting it.  "I'm NOT giving her my address, this woman is not welcome in my home!" - and - "Why did I offer to review her music?  I get PAID to do this!"  I asked, "How much would you pay to make this problem go away?"  Retreat leader: "(*&#%+__ #$*!!!!)"  (A church lady who swears like a sailor -- I do love it.)   She said that she had promised never to pretend that she and M were husband and wife again, and that she put in an order for new flyers and a website re-write.  (Surprise! I really didn't think she would do it.)  She said that the ruse was clearly stupid and dangerous -- nosy people like D will be at every event.  That should have been enough!  I actually agreed, but she offered to schedule a composition lesson, so . . . what about using my place?
    So the wife will take the kids to their soccer practice, we'll look over music, and then the kids will pick up treats and juice boxes at my place after.  

I'll be there to play moderator, two composition teachers are better than one, and the kids are cute.  This will either go very well, or . . . not.  I'll give you an update this weekend!