RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 11:24 pm
(This post was last modified: January 11, 2017 at 11:32 pm by AceBoogie.)
Quit worrying yourself man. Sex certainly is an important part of life, but it's nothing to fret over. My biggest advice is to just start talking to girls on a regular basis. I'm not saying to go out and try and get numbers, I mean literally just interact with females on a regular basis. You're going to have to deal with some of the awkwardness that comes with learning how to talk to women, period. That is unavoidable. But I'm just saying talk to girls constantly.
Make conversation with the cashier at Starbucks... make friends with girls, hang out with girls... would really help if you got to know a girl well that isn't family... After you get comfortable just interacting with women, then worry about getting laid.
After that learn how to start flirting with women. Even if it's a girl you're not particularly attracted to, learn to flirt a little. I'm not a big fan of "running game" on women (some of these "pickup artist" guys are basically sociopaths), but there are certain things you can do and say to build sexual tension between you and a girl, but don't worry about these things until you're simply comfortable with being around women.
Also, I would certainly look for a casual hookup before looking for a serious relationship. Sex is certainly an important part of a romantic relationship and you want to be comfortable with your body and your sexuality before you get into something serious with someone.
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Definitely be confident in yourself when interacting with girls. It also doesn't hurt to be a little cocky, in a funny way. Don't take yourself too seriously
Stay clean, smell good, dress well (doesn't matter what your style is, just look presentable)
Have your own life, don't live to please anyone but you
be down to earth and make an attempt to actually relate to people
I lost my virginity a little late but now I don't even think about that. Sex is awesome and is definitely an important part of life but there's no need to stress yourself out because of this.
Make conversation with the cashier at Starbucks... make friends with girls, hang out with girls... would really help if you got to know a girl well that isn't family... After you get comfortable just interacting with women, then worry about getting laid.
After that learn how to start flirting with women. Even if it's a girl you're not particularly attracted to, learn to flirt a little. I'm not a big fan of "running game" on women (some of these "pickup artist" guys are basically sociopaths), but there are certain things you can do and say to build sexual tension between you and a girl, but don't worry about these things until you're simply comfortable with being around women.
Also, I would certainly look for a casual hookup before looking for a serious relationship. Sex is certainly an important part of a romantic relationship and you want to be comfortable with your body and your sexuality before you get into something serious with someone.
edit:
Definitely be confident in yourself when interacting with girls. It also doesn't hurt to be a little cocky, in a funny way. Don't take yourself too seriously
Stay clean, smell good, dress well (doesn't matter what your style is, just look presentable)
Have your own life, don't live to please anyone but you
be down to earth and make an attempt to actually relate to people
I lost my virginity a little late but now I don't even think about that. Sex is awesome and is definitely an important part of life but there's no need to stress yourself out because of this.
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It is the air and light of every heart – builder of every home, kindler of every fire on every hearth. It was the first to dream of immortality. It fills the world with melody – for music is the voice of love.
Love is the magician, the enchanter, that changes worthless things to Joy, and makes royal kings and queens of common clay. It is the perfume of that wondrous flower, the heart, and without that sacred passion, that divine swoon, we are less than beasts; but with it, earth is heaven, and we are gods.” - Robert. G. Ingersoll
