(January 12, 2017 at 10:50 am)FatAndFaithless Wrote:(January 12, 2017 at 10:47 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Or you can wait and have sex with someone you are in a committed relationship with, who truly cares about you and is your best friend.Novel idea, isn't it? Then you can be completely honest with each other and it's ok, bc it'll be about love not about first time "performance" and pretending. I guarantee sex will be much better that way.
There was exactly 0 awkwardness between my man and I the first time we had sex, and we were both virgins. It was very painful for me despite how careful he was, but we giggled about it and took our time.
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Well...I mean if that's literally the only way you've experienced it yourself, that's a pretty bold statement.
True. But we don't necessarily have to experience something first hand to make a reasonable conclusion about it. It seems pretty obvious that sex under the pressure of trying to perform well and not letting it be obvious that it's your first time, lest your partner ditches you, doesn't sound all too great. At least not as great as the non awkward sex you have with someone who knows you and cares about you, and vice versa.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
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