I know what you mean about people holding contempt or resentment for you silently and already having disagreed without actually uttering a word. Like muttering in the back ground, the look on their face or you can just 'tell'.
I know people who when something you are doing is bothering them, they won't say a word and then later on they will come out and get pissed of about it.
And I will be like "You only had to ask".
Also I'm a man of my principles y'know? If someone is going to be a grumpy bastard and not actually tell me when I'm doing something they don't like (an example, I've got music on and they don't want it on/they want it turning down) - I'm not going to reward them with their grumpiness and 'guess' that I'm bothering them. For a start, I could be wrong! They might not be bothered, I might be wrong - OR they could be bothered about something else.
If they're bothered they should say, for both principle and practical reasons I believe. - it causes less confusion, and besides - I might be actually doing them a favour if the person can actually grasp the fact that if they simply ask - I'll usually be willing to oblige or at least negotiate anyway, and it's kind of rude - sometimes very rude I think - for them to be getting all pissed off and have it out with me later...
I also dislike or even hate that general thing some people do when they pretend not to be bothered by something to not hurt YOUR feelings and you actually believe them... - only to have it out with you later if they feel like it!! They try to have it both ways.
Great point about the 'God Given' authority thing being taken away,
And, fuck double standards - it causes a lot of problems in this world. But then again, so does a lot of things - so fuck all those things too then now that I think of it.
EvF
I know people who when something you are doing is bothering them, they won't say a word and then later on they will come out and get pissed of about it.
And I will be like "You only had to ask".
Also I'm a man of my principles y'know? If someone is going to be a grumpy bastard and not actually tell me when I'm doing something they don't like (an example, I've got music on and they don't want it on/they want it turning down) - I'm not going to reward them with their grumpiness and 'guess' that I'm bothering them. For a start, I could be wrong! They might not be bothered, I might be wrong - OR they could be bothered about something else.
If they're bothered they should say, for both principle and practical reasons I believe. - it causes less confusion, and besides - I might be actually doing them a favour if the person can actually grasp the fact that if they simply ask - I'll usually be willing to oblige or at least negotiate anyway, and it's kind of rude - sometimes very rude I think - for them to be getting all pissed off and have it out with me later...
I also dislike or even hate that general thing some people do when they pretend not to be bothered by something to not hurt YOUR feelings and you actually believe them... - only to have it out with you later if they feel like it!! They try to have it both ways.
Great point about the 'God Given' authority thing being taken away,
And, fuck double standards - it causes a lot of problems in this world. But then again, so does a lot of things - so fuck all those things too then now that I think of it.
EvF
