(January 28, 2017 at 6:48 pm)Thal Wrote:I need Thal to say everything I want, but can't express, all the fucking time. Lol(January 27, 2017 at 7:13 am)pool the great Wrote: All I know is these "racism" and "homophobic" type of things are extremely can be somewhat subjective. I could text my friend "wassup ma nigga" and not be called a racist but if I say that to a sensitive decent person it'll hurt them and they'll rightly call me a racist. Same with homophobia, misogyny, androgyny and every other buzz word on the book inequality/minority problem. So it seems to me that when you say you cut ties with someone because they're a racist, homophobic etc it just translates "I just don't like him". I mean I'm not asking you to explain your decision, you don't have to and besides you can't explain why you like hanging out with certain people anyway, you just have the same vibe, you mesh really well and soon enough you're kicking off
Fixed your comment for you.
For the rest, you're kinda right. Once we realize our friend has unacceptable values, we tend to not like them anymore. Funny how that works. I don't like racists, and I don't like bullies. That's how it is.
(January 27, 2017 at 2:33 am)vorlon13 Wrote: I just know I'm getting real tired of it. There's a zillion things we can talk about besides that, and he's not picking up on that's where I want to go . . .
Yes, there are other things we can talk about, but for a lot of us, friendship is about more than "what can we talk about." Friendship is about liking the other person, and if the other person develops or reveals deplorable values such as racism etc, then most of us tend to not find that very likable.
I really don't understand why there are people who can't comprehend this. It's so simple and basic, like: I don't like racists --> You've shown yourself as a racist --> I don't like you anymore --> We can't be friends anymore.
Also, friendship isn't something anyone is entitled to. People have ended friendships for way more insignificant and silly reasons than core values. I've never heard any outrage regarding that before.
Couldn't say it better myself.
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