RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
January 30, 2017 at 1:49 pm
(This post was last modified: January 30, 2017 at 2:01 pm by mlmooney89.)
I married my high school sweetheart and then divorced him after seven years of being together but only 2 being married. Let's start on where things fucked up there.
I was controlling on the money because he spent it all and didn't have a job.
Fuck up number one: Be sure you have a money plan BEFORE marriage.
He finally got a good job and I thought we were happy. He said we were too poor (his parents are rich so he was used to more and wasn't happy with what we had) and his dad kept pushing him to be in the military.
Fuck up two: Make sure you want the same thing out of life and value things similar.
He joined the military despite me crying hysterically begging him not to. (I am an army brat and I never want that for my kids)
Fuck up three: Make sure that you value one another enough to take it seriously when they say they can't and won't live the life you are forcing upon them. I refused to be an army wife and he refused to stay in our hometown living life pay check to paycheck.
BUT marriage can be SOOOO good too! I've been with my current husband for five years now and married last September.
Where he didn't find me funny my husband now thinks I'm hilarious. When I hated his friends I love my husband's friends now. Where Nate and I used to fight over music Tony and I share similar tastes. Where Nate put his parent's approval over mine Tony values mine the most. I used to think Nate was too immature to handle the bills I was okay with Tony opening a credit card in our names without my approval because I trust him. But most of all when I was happy with Nate it wasn't good enough to him, our life together wasn't good enough so he leaves me crying at home to do what he wants. Now that I am happy with Tony and he says he wants a career and to be able to take care of a family he and I work on getting to a better place together. THAT is the good part of marriage.
I was controlling on the money because he spent it all and didn't have a job.
Fuck up number one: Be sure you have a money plan BEFORE marriage.
He finally got a good job and I thought we were happy. He said we were too poor (his parents are rich so he was used to more and wasn't happy with what we had) and his dad kept pushing him to be in the military.
Fuck up two: Make sure you want the same thing out of life and value things similar.
He joined the military despite me crying hysterically begging him not to. (I am an army brat and I never want that for my kids)
Fuck up three: Make sure that you value one another enough to take it seriously when they say they can't and won't live the life you are forcing upon them. I refused to be an army wife and he refused to stay in our hometown living life pay check to paycheck.
BUT marriage can be SOOOO good too! I've been with my current husband for five years now and married last September.
Where he didn't find me funny my husband now thinks I'm hilarious. When I hated his friends I love my husband's friends now. Where Nate and I used to fight over music Tony and I share similar tastes. Where Nate put his parent's approval over mine Tony values mine the most. I used to think Nate was too immature to handle the bills I was okay with Tony opening a credit card in our names without my approval because I trust him. But most of all when I was happy with Nate it wasn't good enough to him, our life together wasn't good enough so he leaves me crying at home to do what he wants. Now that I am happy with Tony and he says he wants a career and to be able to take care of a family he and I work on getting to a better place together. THAT is the good part of marriage.
“What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it's supposed to be.”
Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."
Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."
