RE: Acquaintances that want your work for free
March 10, 2017 at 6:02 am
(This post was last modified: March 10, 2017 at 6:04 am by paulpablo.)
A woman recently blocked me on whatsapp because she told me she was invloved in finance and I asked her do I put my money into gold or property, I was half joking, I was just bored in work just trying to make convo.
I didn't expect her to give me a serious answer back, I would have been happy with a joke answer back, I don't blame her, it was just miscommunication and this isn't a tragic story but you talking about this just reminded me.
There's situations covered in Seinfeld where it would be really difficult for me to not ask my partner for free work, such as if they were a masseuse or phone sex operator.
As for me I've had my friend ask me for my staff discount and I said no. He tried guilt tripping me, telling me he knew I wouldn't do it, telling me I couldn't do it anyway because I'd be too stupid and ask for the wrong thing, then giving me the silent treatment then called me greedy.
He the reminded me of some stuff he gave me which I imediantly offered him back but he didn't want it.
In that sort of situation with me it just tends to get worse and worse for the other person the more psychological tricks they try and use, because I can see them coming from a mile away and I'll just be laughing at them and it becomes less and less likely that I'll ever want to do favours for them again ever.
There's fine lines between being kind, being mean and being reasonable.
I don't always get it perfect, sometimes I'm mean, sometimes I'm too kind and get taken advantage of.
Just from hearing your story I don't know how well you know these people but it sounds like it reaches the realms of taking advantage a while back.
I didn't expect her to give me a serious answer back, I would have been happy with a joke answer back, I don't blame her, it was just miscommunication and this isn't a tragic story but you talking about this just reminded me.
There's situations covered in Seinfeld where it would be really difficult for me to not ask my partner for free work, such as if they were a masseuse or phone sex operator.
As for me I've had my friend ask me for my staff discount and I said no. He tried guilt tripping me, telling me he knew I wouldn't do it, telling me I couldn't do it anyway because I'd be too stupid and ask for the wrong thing, then giving me the silent treatment then called me greedy.
He the reminded me of some stuff he gave me which I imediantly offered him back but he didn't want it.
In that sort of situation with me it just tends to get worse and worse for the other person the more psychological tricks they try and use, because I can see them coming from a mile away and I'll just be laughing at them and it becomes less and less likely that I'll ever want to do favours for them again ever.
There's fine lines between being kind, being mean and being reasonable.
I don't always get it perfect, sometimes I'm mean, sometimes I'm too kind and get taken advantage of.
Just from hearing your story I don't know how well you know these people but it sounds like it reaches the realms of taking advantage a while back.
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Impersonation is treason.
