(April 17, 2017 at 11:16 am)Faith No More Wrote: That's a nice sentiment and all, but it's not entirely true. Sometimes you do have to put yourself first just so you can have something to give later.
This.
I hear this idea expressed often in regards to relationships in general. Maybe it sounds romantic, but it really is bad advice. You can't take care of anybody before you take care of yourself and putting that burden entirely on someone else is bound to result in disappointment.
Also, does it really sound healthy to be dependent like this on someone else? Even if they are dependent on you. I believe people who are self-sufficient emotionally can build much stronger, more stable relationships.
Sometimes you do of course have to put the other's person's needs above yours, in certain situations. But making that the status quo just isn't the best idea, imo.
