(September 29, 2017 at 5:06 pm)Alex K Wrote: Just ask him about himself and his interests and pay attention whether he'll come back and show genuine interest in you or just blather on about himself. That's a double win because guys love it if you show interest in them, but it tells you some of the most important things you need to know about him, whether he is a balanced and empathetic enough individual so that you can have a good place in his life.
That's a good suggestion and I normally do that when I first meet someone. It's nice to add in a few interesting questions also instead of the normal stuff one usually hears.
I sure as heck won't take a chaperone on a first date though lol. I haven't needed a chaperone since - oh...the mid 1980s.
I follow the usual precautions - meet in a public place, drink very little or not at all so I'm in complete control of my mental faculties and - the most important - don't ignore your gut instincts! If something feels off, it is off and it's time to leave.
Also, when meeting someone for the first time, who is to say I'm not a serial killer?
Let's be real - I'm an atheist and we all know how immoral and sketchy those people are.
So far, the top suggestions I like are "do you cheat at Scrabble?" and "what do you think about Trump?"
If he (or anyone else I meet after him) seems to have a sense of humor, I'll toss those out.
And if I want to end it early, I'll toss out one of the scary suggestions.
-Teresa
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