RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 17, 2017 at 11:03 am
(This post was last modified: October 17, 2017 at 11:12 am by Catholic_Lady.)
I would tell. A person deserves to know it if their significant other is a cheater, especially if they are on the verge of getting married and having kids.
I can't imagine anyone thinking it's better not to tell.
YOU did not end the relationship. The cheater did.
Perfectly said.
I can't imagine anyone thinking it's better not to tell.
(October 16, 2017 at 2:16 pm)pool the matey Wrote: Well, say you do tell your best friend about it. Now you're going to be the guy that ended a 8 year long relationship.. . That's not a small thing to bear.
Or your friend don't believe you, cmon the guy has been with this chick for 8 years, he's probably going to think something like you're jealous of their relationship or something....and now you're the guy that's jealous of his best friend doing good...
YOU did not end the relationship. The cheater did.
(October 16, 2017 at 2:26 pm)Mr.Obvious Wrote:(October 16, 2017 at 2:16 pm)pool the matey Wrote: Well, say you do tell your best friend about it. Now you're going to be the guy that ended a 8 year long relationship.. . That's not a small thing to bear.
Or your friend don't believe you, cmon the guy has been with this chick for 8 years, he's probably going to think something like you're jealous of their relationship or something....and now you're the guy that's jealous of his best friend doing good...
That's not an ethical dilemma though.
His GF is a sexual predator that is lying to him. It is your obligation to tell him, after perhaps as Losty pointed out, after you file a police report. There is no dilemma.
If he resents you for it when the truth comes out or he doesn't believe you at all, that sucks. But keeping those possibilities in mind doesn't make your choice of option 2 any more ethical. Instead its more selfish, actually. You don't want to upset the natural order and would rather let your friend get cheated on and have a sexual predator go on harrassing others? That's cowardice, not ethics.
Perfectly said.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh
