ok, wow.... I appreciate the thoughts guys... I do, didn't think I'd get this much of a response.
ok so to address a few questions/responses.... yeah I'm 36 and did use the word "girl".... no biggie, I'll be careful to refer to them as females/ladies I guess from here.
the issue is, my ex-wife used to want me to go to church with her, it made her cry a few times that I thought it was a complete waste of time and utter hypocrisy....plus she was afraid in the end to tell her family I was not longer a "believer".... even after 11 years. Little backstory, when we dated, her parent's were sooo religious, I wasn't even allowed in the house!! anyway, little sore spot there. keep in mind, my prior episodes of believing actually had nothing to do with her, I wanted friends, good friends, and I thought I'd find it in "a church".... (I was dead wrong there, don't get me wrong, theres good and bad people in everything, religion or not). anyway, it wasn't just communication, we wanted to have kids, she wanted her kids to have the bible read to them, she wanted it to be like a tradition to have the christmas story, and wanted them in church....I was ok with the exposure to christianity, but I didn't not want them "required to" go to anything, and she did. Funny thing, after 2 years of trying to have kids, we never got pregnant....there has got to be some serendipity there..... anyway this lady that I am dating now, she asked me if we lived together, could she have religious stuff on the walls, like she as talking about house decor and stuff, and I was like I guess...but I'm not really big into it....plus she asked me quite a few times like "can I just consider her views".... she & I have talked about it, I told her about my marriage stuff, and well that I'm pretty staunch against it...and that I'll never step foot in a church again, and she respects that. IT's just there is a part of me that feels like there should be some shared belief in this, like can we really be successful if we both have these fundamental differences?? I am encouraged by your guys responses (and laughed my ass off with the catholic guy experience!!),it's good to know that if you love somebody it can work out, but having kids,---are you saying that it brings people together with different beliefs or separates them?? I do really like this girl, but honestly if I found somebody that was her without being a believer, I think I'd shit my pants and jump all over it. idk, though....just a little lost I guess....
ok so to address a few questions/responses.... yeah I'm 36 and did use the word "girl".... no biggie, I'll be careful to refer to them as females/ladies I guess from here.
the issue is, my ex-wife used to want me to go to church with her, it made her cry a few times that I thought it was a complete waste of time and utter hypocrisy....plus she was afraid in the end to tell her family I was not longer a "believer".... even after 11 years. Little backstory, when we dated, her parent's were sooo religious, I wasn't even allowed in the house!! anyway, little sore spot there. keep in mind, my prior episodes of believing actually had nothing to do with her, I wanted friends, good friends, and I thought I'd find it in "a church".... (I was dead wrong there, don't get me wrong, theres good and bad people in everything, religion or not). anyway, it wasn't just communication, we wanted to have kids, she wanted her kids to have the bible read to them, she wanted it to be like a tradition to have the christmas story, and wanted them in church....I was ok with the exposure to christianity, but I didn't not want them "required to" go to anything, and she did. Funny thing, after 2 years of trying to have kids, we never got pregnant....there has got to be some serendipity there..... anyway this lady that I am dating now, she asked me if we lived together, could she have religious stuff on the walls, like she as talking about house decor and stuff, and I was like I guess...but I'm not really big into it....plus she asked me quite a few times like "can I just consider her views".... she & I have talked about it, I told her about my marriage stuff, and well that I'm pretty staunch against it...and that I'll never step foot in a church again, and she respects that. IT's just there is a part of me that feels like there should be some shared belief in this, like can we really be successful if we both have these fundamental differences?? I am encouraged by your guys responses (and laughed my ass off with the catholic guy experience!!),it's good to know that if you love somebody it can work out, but having kids,---are you saying that it brings people together with different beliefs or separates them?? I do really like this girl, but honestly if I found somebody that was her without being a believer, I think I'd shit my pants and jump all over it. idk, though....just a little lost I guess....
