RE: New atheist here, gotta say, not loving it
November 5, 2017 at 2:33 pm
(This post was last modified: November 5, 2017 at 2:34 pm by mordant.)
Well if he just up and leaves at the first sign of push back when he's not established a rep in an environment that has lots of trolls pestering it, that is manipulative and immature regardless of whether it comes from depression or religion or just general ass-hattery.
People are self-absorbed for lots of reasons, religion being just one of them.
I learned a valuable lesson in this regard when I was in the middle of divorcing my first wife. She had mental health issues and I felt sorry for her. My attorney was recommending I play hardball on a particular matter and I was conflicted about it, so sought a second opinion. I'll never forget what the other attorney told me: "Look, you know old people who are crochety and cranky and mean and nasty, and they get away with it because they're old. You also know old people who are kind and generous and approachable and humble. Your wife is mentally ill, sure ... but she's also being an asshole. You have to keep the two separate. Being mentally ill is no more an excuse to be an asshole than being old is an excuse to be an asshole."
I hung up the phone, and just sat there for like half an hour absorbing this advice. It's some of the best advice I've ever gotten. As a bonus, it also has helped me not to become too irascible in my old age ;-)
People are self-absorbed for lots of reasons, religion being just one of them.
I learned a valuable lesson in this regard when I was in the middle of divorcing my first wife. She had mental health issues and I felt sorry for her. My attorney was recommending I play hardball on a particular matter and I was conflicted about it, so sought a second opinion. I'll never forget what the other attorney told me: "Look, you know old people who are crochety and cranky and mean and nasty, and they get away with it because they're old. You also know old people who are kind and generous and approachable and humble. Your wife is mentally ill, sure ... but she's also being an asshole. You have to keep the two separate. Being mentally ill is no more an excuse to be an asshole than being old is an excuse to be an asshole."
I hung up the phone, and just sat there for like half an hour absorbing this advice. It's some of the best advice I've ever gotten. As a bonus, it also has helped me not to become too irascible in my old age ;-)
