A question for the ladies of AF

[emjay]

I've never met so many openly bisexual (or variations of) women in one place either, such as it is on AF. It's refreshing to see so much openness, and casualness about it, but it is still curious; because I don't see the same thing, or at least not in the same way, with guys. I think a lot of it may come down to their being much more acceptance of female homosexuality both internally and externally (socially); as a general rule, males have a lot more hangups about it, and pressure to overcome... social; peer pressure... and internal; negative, emasculating associations of what it would mean to entertain homosexual feelings, let alone explore them or act on them. I don't know if women face similar pressures, but it doesn't seem so, not in the same way, and it seems quite the contrary, in other ways, with TV often seeming to promote bisexual experimentation among females but not males.

I agree that to males it might be harder to come out homossexual than gals.

A story: I have a coworker, a 21 yo. He kept ribbing me and others in homophobic remarks. All he talked about was how gay we all were. Eventually I told him, that he is the only one talking about it, that he spent all the time talking how gay others were. Later he approached me and said "How did you found out?". Yeah, he is gay. Yet he feels pressure to call others gay. I told him "Fabio, I am old enough to be your dad, the only thing that makes a man of your age to be so concerned about others sexuality, revolves around its own doubts.

Should be pretty obvious

You're probably the most open-minded (ie non-hang-upped) straight guy I've ever met... the complete antithesis of the example of overcompensation you give of that guy. I really respect that in you I mean, I know you're straight, but you approach homosexuality with the same sort of casualness that I'm talking about with the women here... it's very rare I find.