(December 18, 2017 at 2:02 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(December 18, 2017 at 1:09 am)ignoramus Wrote: P in the V........Ok, Is that how it works? I'll give it a go. I wish someone had told me that 40 years ago! I was too embarrassed to ask!
That was for the OP. Honest question. Just don't understand a married couple not having sex for 10 years. I assume there's a huge piece to the story that's missing.
The huge piece of the story is that people can fall out of romantic love with each other. Sorry to be crude, but I got a shit load of fucking out of the way when I was in my 20's. When your a male in your 40's and 50's, desire starts to have a larger impact on sexual health than the pure biological aspect. Desire comes from needing someone and feeling needed. When both of those are missing, there are other avenues for the biological process. In my 20's I could and did put the P in the V without giving a shit who owned the V.
I believe part of the issue with my wife is that she is on antidepressants which can have issues with libido. She and her doctor have played around with medications and even tried to taper herself off, but that wasn't a good scenario either. Its basically turned into a lack of desire feedback loop. When I look at her, I now see her as friend. The thing is, she is a pretty woman. But at this point maybe we've become too familiar and stale to each other.
This has been going on for a very very long time. We were rabbits when we started dating (in our 20's), but honestly the drop in sex happened pretty quickly after we were married. Few times a week, once a week, couple times a month, once a month, once ever other month. I would say we were down to 3x a year about five years in.
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