Quote:I'm not telling my wife about the other woman. I think their is enough cause for a divorce without saying, "I found someone else". The other woman is not the reason my wife and I have only been intimate twice in the last 10 years.
This is where I can't side with you at all. You think her not having sex with you is an okay reason to lie and have an affair while you're still married? Testing the waters to see how it works out before you finalize it with her? You do realize that there are medical conditions that could cause her to have a low libido or maybe she thinks your sack skills are lacking and prefers her vibrator? IMO, "I found someone else" should never be a factor in a divorce. No one should be finding anyone else without explicitly breaking up or having rules that you can find someone else until it is finalized. Sounds like you might be doing her favor by sending her some divorce papers now before you start testing the water. This is indefensible behavior in a typical marriage, even a sexless one.
