What do people hate/dislike about you?

[Joods]

Thank you for this.  I guess gaining 40 pounds since July  (it has been over five months since I smoked a cigarette)  has caused me to notice how unflattering 250 pounds looks on a frame that's 5 foot, 4 and 1/2 inches tall. And for as much as I am trying to work on that,  I'm stressed out here at home and I just don't ever get any compliments from any of the people I live with.
I do need to hear it every once in a while but I am not going to beg anyone in my house to say it.

I hope you'll stick with the not smoking for now.  Eventually you'll need to attend to weight loss too to enjoy a long life.  But my just younger brother used to vacillate between smoking and weight gain.  He was just over six foot tall and weighted about 350 when he died.  He had a massive heart attack in his sleep at 47 when his CPAP machine set at maximum could no longer maintain an airway for him.  Eventually the nicotine will lose its grip on you and you'll learn to deal with the feelings it can mask.  You should probably keep your significant other in the loop about what you're experiencing to some degree.  Maybe just tell him how strongly you're feeling these negative feelings and how much you could use all the encouragement he can give you?

Rest assured I have zero intentions of returning to smoking horrible cigarettes. I cannot stand the smell. It makes me ill. That nicotine released me from it's chains back in July. I haven't had a craving or a want since July 1st. I feel so free! It's great

I am so very sorry about your younger brother. Rob had a grandmother and a great aunt (her sister) both die within the last three years of lung cancer. I thought that that would have encouraged him to quit but it hasn't. Everyone in his family smokes, so I'm not surprised by this at all. 

I've attempted to let Rob know how the smell sickens me, but he still smokes. He says he has no plans to quit. Luckily, there's no smoking in my house or in my car. And when we shoot pool - there is no smoking inside the bar now. They went smoke free back in April of this year. I've honestly stopped asking for any encouragement from anyone in my house. I just do me and leave everyone else to their own shit.

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Yeah, nothing worse than people breathing down your neck while you work...
My old man was the worst...

Used to tell me how to weld... He had no idea, he just liked to be the boss.
A hint to all the young ones. Never go into business with the family! It usually doesn't end well. Especially if you're Sicilian? Right Jood?

OMG yes. Nothing sets off the Italian blood boiling faster than an elder who wants to stand over you while you do something. I hate that!