(December 18, 2017 at 12:12 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Well I guess since you asked for opinions, here is my, probably unpopular around here, opinion...
Best option: Go to counseling and fight for your marriage. See a sexologist as well. She's not treating you badly, she's not abusive, she's not cheating on you, you claim to get along well. So, with those in place, stick with her "through better or worse" of the rest of it. You know, like you promised.
Crappy option: Divorce your best friend of 25 years because sex is lacking.
Crappiest option of them all: cheat on her.
Yup, I left that out, although I implied it I did not actually state it outright. For the record, I endorse this. My impression, rightly or wrongly, was that OP had already been down that road.
You are correct in so far as that if everything else works, then it is worthwhile, indeed necessary, to explore why it might be that intimacy is an issue. That might yield results. It has to be at least worth the attempt. Given my own circumstance familywise, I am fully aware that finding an appropriate counsellor is critical. Not every counsellor works with every person. Witness my eldest finding it difficult to find a useful therapist/counsellor.
