(December 18, 2017 at 8:03 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote:(December 18, 2017 at 3:03 pm)Shell B Wrote: A consensual affair is one thing. That's totally up to the people involved. Her saying off-hand one night that he can have an affair doesn't necessarily mean she's actually consenting to the affair he's about to have. He needs to actually tell her, which he said he isn't going to, which makes it cheating. Mid-life crises don't excuse bad behavior.
I don't think people grasp how common consensual affairs are in long term marriages. Very common. Personally I think it would be a big mistake to throw away 20 years of friendship by getting a divorce. That is going to hurt his wife way more than him getting laid.
My best friend is a dominatrix who has never had anything but an open relationship. Judging by how many like-minded friends she has, it's very common and not necessarily very complicated. It just has to be everyone's decision. For me, it would be him lying to me that hurt me more than the sex.
Quote:A sexless marriage is a perfectly good reason to cheat.
I disagree. It's a good reason to reconsider the marriage or ask for an open relationship, but it's not a good enough reason to cheat. Cheating is super duper shitty.
