(January 8, 2018 at 4:57 am)Longhorn Wrote: Well if you believe you’re a bad person the shame and the guilt will make you more susceptible to the riders’ of the high horses suggestions on how to not be a piece of shit. It’s a psychological control tool essentially. Because if you’re so bad and flawed who are you to question what the church says?
At its core at least, that’s the dynamic.
No it is not healthy. For me at least it was a lot of fuel to the fire of my own issues with self esteem.
Personally I choose to put aside any emotional aspect of the situation and learn from my mistake after making it right with whomever I hurt.
This. They deny you your self-esteem and the right to make amends via your own efforts, then chain you to the back of a pickup truck called "salvation" and take you for a drag.
