I've brought this up before (sorry if I sound like a vinyl record with a skip in it) but brain research has revealed that every external stimulus goes through an emotional filter before reaching the logical center of our brain. So yes, none of us are physiologically capable of purely logical thought. In light of this, it is no surprise that any of us would beat up on ourself in an irrational way.
When I met my wife, we were both young and not in good financial shape. We were living together (much to the disapproval of her parents). They didn't like me. But when winter came, they bought me a parka. They didn't do it for me; they did it so their daughter wouldn't be burdened by a partner who got sick and couldn't work. Their dislike of me came to a head before the end of that winter and with stupid pride, I eschewed wearing that parka - even when I needed it. I went about with inadequate clothing even though it didn't really accomplish anything. My future wife's parents knew nothing of this so it did nothing to change their opinion of me. I did it because it fed my ego. No logic to it.
Like it or not, we are flawed. The best we can do at the present is recognize our flaws and do the best we can to compensate for them. The scientific method is probably the most brilliant solution to that problem. It isn't a thing that is often applied to our domestic lives though. So yeah, we all punish ourselves in ways that really don't make logical sense.
When I met my wife, we were both young and not in good financial shape. We were living together (much to the disapproval of her parents). They didn't like me. But when winter came, they bought me a parka. They didn't do it for me; they did it so their daughter wouldn't be burdened by a partner who got sick and couldn't work. Their dislike of me came to a head before the end of that winter and with stupid pride, I eschewed wearing that parka - even when I needed it. I went about with inadequate clothing even though it didn't really accomplish anything. My future wife's parents knew nothing of this so it did nothing to change their opinion of me. I did it because it fed my ego. No logic to it.
Like it or not, we are flawed. The best we can do at the present is recognize our flaws and do the best we can to compensate for them. The scientific method is probably the most brilliant solution to that problem. It isn't a thing that is often applied to our domestic lives though. So yeah, we all punish ourselves in ways that really don't make logical sense.
Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former.
Albert Einstein
Albert Einstein
