I realized yesterday while talking with Tibs after I snapped at him for telling me something medical was fine that I'm used to being dismissed as a woman or talked down to. Context so you don't think Tibs or I are assholes:
My skin reacted in a weird way to something, and I thought, "Huh, that's really interesting/weird." So, I called Tibs over and was like, "Look at that. Isn't that weird?" He gave it due attention and was like, "Yeah, but it's fine." and walked out of the room. I took this to mean that he thought I didn't think it was fine, like I was hysterical over something that was obviously benign and went away. So, I snappily said, "I didn't think it wasn't fine." I automatically thought he considered me to be hysterical. Looking back, I realized it was because, as a woman, I've been treated like I'm stupid or hysterical by lots of people. For example, I once had a woman get a knife through her foot at a family party in my house. She knocked it off a table and was bleeding everywhere. I didn't see it. When I came in the house, her blood was in a trail across three rooms. I asked what had happened, learned she was on her way to the hospital and then proceeded to ask more questions about her condition. A man I had never met before, he was friends with my then in-laws, looked at me, without answering my questions, and said, "Calm down." I was perfectly calm. I was a chef for 10 years, and went to welding and metal fabrication school before that. I've seen worse than a stabbed foot. There are plenty of other instances like that. Anyway, my point is that I'm immediately defensive. Tibs was just trying to be reassuring, and was hungry, which is why he just kind of walked off, yet I assumed he thought I needed to be told I was okay because I'm a fainting violet or some shit.
Hillary Clinton had to walk through a quagmire of people thinking she was some conniving bitch who was too weak to keep her husband's attention. Those people are pieces of shit. I had my own reason for not voting for her, but none of them are that it's ingrained in me to look down on women. I'd vote for Michelle Obama.
My skin reacted in a weird way to something, and I thought, "Huh, that's really interesting/weird." So, I called Tibs over and was like, "Look at that. Isn't that weird?" He gave it due attention and was like, "Yeah, but it's fine." and walked out of the room. I took this to mean that he thought I didn't think it was fine, like I was hysterical over something that was obviously benign and went away. So, I snappily said, "I didn't think it wasn't fine." I automatically thought he considered me to be hysterical. Looking back, I realized it was because, as a woman, I've been treated like I'm stupid or hysterical by lots of people. For example, I once had a woman get a knife through her foot at a family party in my house. She knocked it off a table and was bleeding everywhere. I didn't see it. When I came in the house, her blood was in a trail across three rooms. I asked what had happened, learned she was on her way to the hospital and then proceeded to ask more questions about her condition. A man I had never met before, he was friends with my then in-laws, looked at me, without answering my questions, and said, "Calm down." I was perfectly calm. I was a chef for 10 years, and went to welding and metal fabrication school before that. I've seen worse than a stabbed foot. There are plenty of other instances like that. Anyway, my point is that I'm immediately defensive. Tibs was just trying to be reassuring, and was hungry, which is why he just kind of walked off, yet I assumed he thought I needed to be told I was okay because I'm a fainting violet or some shit.
Hillary Clinton had to walk through a quagmire of people thinking she was some conniving bitch who was too weak to keep her husband's attention. Those people are pieces of shit. I had my own reason for not voting for her, but none of them are that it's ingrained in me to look down on women. I'd vote for Michelle Obama.
