Peterson's 12 Rules For Life, have you heard of this?

[bennyboy]

Well, nobody in this thread.  You and Lilly and Emo were my AF LOLbuddies.  Nevertheless..you seemed like a cool dude.  I'm sticking with the non asshole explanation for why you feel the way you do.

I've already confessed to being a fuckface asshole, by virtue of being a male human. I'm certainly not a cool dude, or anything like one.

Feelings are mediators of behavior. I'm pretty much saying in this thread that I'm no longer motivated to act on the ideas of identity politics (Peterson's word, but I think it's apt enough), because doing so is not beneficial for me. I've tried hiring minorities preferentially, and had to deal with all that shit I mentioned; now, I will no longer hire minorities preferentially. I've tried showing understanding, and been told (repeatedly in no uncertain terms) that I'm not worthy of that same understanding because of my identity as a White Man™.

One of the essential tenets of a contract is that there must be something in it for both parties, and both parties must be willing participants. Well, the particular flavor of social contract which is currently presented is highly disadvantageous for me. If I act to support minorities, there needs to be some currency in return-- a simple recognition that I'm trying to be a good human being would probably be sufficient. Instead, despite (slightly illegally, probably) specifically choosing minority employees over a couple of years, I ended up dealing with unending grief, complaints, and downright accusations.

My feelings can be discarded, but at this cost: if I feel that I'm giving too much (I do) and receiving to little (I do) in a given relationship, then I'm going to tear up that social contract, and draw my net of consideration only to those who I feel give real value to my life. That means that I will do what's best for me, for my family, for my friends.

Here's a summary of the left position as it appears to me: "Fuck you, asshole. Support us! Treat us well because you SHOULD, because we've dealt with assholes like you all our lives. But don't you dare expect to be treated civilly yourself, because YOU are one of THEM, and that in itself makes you a piece of shit. And furthermore, not only do you have to verbally agree that you're a piece of shit because of who you were born, you'd better fucking BELIEVE it too. And THAT is why you should adopt our world view and act on it."

Not particularly compelling. My current position on this is: I'm going to live my life and try to better it, and foster relationships which I believe will improve my enjoyment of it. I will avoid crazy fucks when I can, and beat them down if I have to. I will try to better my family's position, and support my friends in doing the same. As for everyone else: I will treat you as well as I can until I decide if you're a friend or a crazy fuck. And in the likely case that I decide it's the latter, I reserve the right not to give a shit about anything you say, do, or want.