Santa and Other Lies to the Kids
August 23, 2018 at 2:10 pm
(This post was last modified: August 23, 2018 at 2:12 pm by mlmooney89.)
So talk on another thread got me thinking about this and I think I have my mind made up but I don't know if I'm making a selfish decision.
I decided I don't want to tell my kid that Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, etc are real. I'm being lazy for one because I don't want to deal with the fall out of when she finally learns the truth nor trying to keep up the lie for years. Two I'm selfish and I want her to know I worked hard to buy her gifts not that some guy randomly deposited them to her house. Growing up Santa was the hero of Christmas when my mom worked her ass off to spoil us and got no credit for it. I also don't want to tell her that god isn't real and then turn around and say Santa is. Where do I draw the line?
I already know my mom will go off the deep end when I tell her because she LOVES the idea of Santa and childhood innocence and Christmas magic. Last year Charlie was only 3 weeks old so it didn't matter but this year she will be over a year and start understanding what we are saying. I know it still won't matter probably until the year after for her to start actually comprehending but I feel like if I'm going to do this I need to tell people now "Hey don't tell her Santa is coming if she is good or he will bring gifts" Am I really being selfish by taking this childhood magic from her, by inevitably making her the asshole kid that ruins it for everyone else, or by wanting the thanks instead of Santa getting it? My husband really doesn't give a fuck what we tell her, he said he will go with whatever I decide but I'm so torn.
It's not just Santa though it's all the fake people. I'm not against decorating for Christmas or buying presents for under the tree, I'd help her dye Easter eggs and hide them for her to find, leave money under her pillow for teeth. I would just let her know it's me doing it and it's all in good fun.
What did y'all tell your kids? Did you regret telling them what you did? Do you think it hurt or helped them later?
I decided I don't want to tell my kid that Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, etc are real. I'm being lazy for one because I don't want to deal with the fall out of when she finally learns the truth nor trying to keep up the lie for years. Two I'm selfish and I want her to know I worked hard to buy her gifts not that some guy randomly deposited them to her house. Growing up Santa was the hero of Christmas when my mom worked her ass off to spoil us and got no credit for it. I also don't want to tell her that god isn't real and then turn around and say Santa is. Where do I draw the line?
I already know my mom will go off the deep end when I tell her because she LOVES the idea of Santa and childhood innocence and Christmas magic. Last year Charlie was only 3 weeks old so it didn't matter but this year she will be over a year and start understanding what we are saying. I know it still won't matter probably until the year after for her to start actually comprehending but I feel like if I'm going to do this I need to tell people now "Hey don't tell her Santa is coming if she is good or he will bring gifts" Am I really being selfish by taking this childhood magic from her, by inevitably making her the asshole kid that ruins it for everyone else, or by wanting the thanks instead of Santa getting it? My husband really doesn't give a fuck what we tell her, he said he will go with whatever I decide but I'm so torn.
It's not just Santa though it's all the fake people. I'm not against decorating for Christmas or buying presents for under the tree, I'd help her dye Easter eggs and hide them for her to find, leave money under her pillow for teeth. I would just let her know it's me doing it and it's all in good fun.
What did y'all tell your kids? Did you regret telling them what you did? Do you think it hurt or helped them later?
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