RE: Does positive masculinity exist? Men correct the woman.
September 29, 2018 at 3:03 pm
(This post was last modified: September 29, 2018 at 3:04 pm by Mystic.)
I think the Quran says in a verse:
Men are supposed to be up lifters/moral support regarding Woman, so any belittling woman and down playing them due to physical appearance of weakness counters the responsibility of men towards women.
The verse continues in that regard to say, if you do suspect or fear betrayal, just like another verse says most suspicions are evil and not to be payed attention to, says:
1. Don't speak to them (about it)
2. And leave them alone (regarding this) in their bed rooms as well
3. And (continue) to have intercourse with them.
So a man who is insecure and tells the wife his doubts about her, will destroy her character and it almost becomes a fulfilling prophecy if you project your fear of betrayal on them.
This is the proper translation of the beat wife verse, and I testify to that with all my heart.
And so if a woman is obedient to God and protects the hidden as God has protected, never should we ever project our fears on her, as that would degrade her. This is true of all women, and the Quran shows in the Surah light, that even if the town begins to speak about a wife cheating on her husband, to not pay attention to rumours and ignore them, and rather only take them seriously if there is four witnesses who witness the act.
I suspect many statistics of cheating are based on false rumours and we are creating a notion of epidemic of cheating but it's more like people are causing others to separate through spreading rumours.
So I would say learning to not project one's insecurities and fears on a women, is a huge sign of masculinity.
Men are supposed to be up lifters/moral support regarding Woman, so any belittling woman and down playing them due to physical appearance of weakness counters the responsibility of men towards women.
The verse continues in that regard to say, if you do suspect or fear betrayal, just like another verse says most suspicions are evil and not to be payed attention to, says:
1. Don't speak to them (about it)
2. And leave them alone (regarding this) in their bed rooms as well
3. And (continue) to have intercourse with them.
So a man who is insecure and tells the wife his doubts about her, will destroy her character and it almost becomes a fulfilling prophecy if you project your fear of betrayal on them.
This is the proper translation of the beat wife verse, and I testify to that with all my heart.
And so if a woman is obedient to God and protects the hidden as God has protected, never should we ever project our fears on her, as that would degrade her. This is true of all women, and the Quran shows in the Surah light, that even if the town begins to speak about a wife cheating on her husband, to not pay attention to rumours and ignore them, and rather only take them seriously if there is four witnesses who witness the act.
I suspect many statistics of cheating are based on false rumours and we are creating a notion of epidemic of cheating but it's more like people are causing others to separate through spreading rumours.
So I would say learning to not project one's insecurities and fears on a women, is a huge sign of masculinity.
