(October 13, 2018 at 3:01 pm)AtlasS33 Wrote:(October 13, 2018 at 7:25 am)paulpablo Wrote: Actually the Qur'an says if you fear rebellion. It doesn't say the wife has to actually do something other than cause a fear of rebellion.
If this verse was fair and equal it would just say "If your partner rebels against you then rebel against them in the same way they did to you."
But it doesn't say that at all.
Firstly it gives men the position of being able to judge their wives based in the emotions the husband feels towards his wife, namely fear.
And then the verse allows the husband power to act on these emotions through verbal reprimanding, then forsaking them in the bedroom then violence if the husband still feels fear about the wives rebellion.
What would make me fear rebellion but rebellion itself?
If my wife is not rebelling, then I have no reason to fear her rebellion; or else I will be insane and paranoid.
If I fear her rebellion without her doing anything, then I would need an urgent psychological treatment for paranoia, and moreover I will be abusing the rights Islam gave me.
"Fear" their rebellion means "know" their rebellion according to many interpretation.
Everyone has had/will have fears of things that haven't happened yet. And yes paranoid irrational men exist.
So it's probably not a good idea to give husbands the right to admonish or hit women based on if they fear rebellion.
Are you ready for the fire? We are firemen. WE ARE FIREMEN! The heat doesn’t bother us. We live in the heat. We train in the heat. It tells us that we’re ready, we’re at home, we’re where we’re supposed to be. Flames don’t intimidate us. What do we do? We control the flame. We control them. We move the flames where we want to. And then we extinguish them.
Impersonation is treason.
