[Serious] Please convince me gender is binary

[DLJ]

There has been a lot of discussion on it lately, and there's a lot of informed and actual people that struggle with gender. Perhaps I need an education in gender identity, But I only see gender as binary. I'm open to be convinced otherwise. Let me start with a statement, which I'm sure people will jump all over.

I define gender normalcy as that which functions according to its design. Our design is in our DNA as male or female.  Gender identity uses the same words and is thus binary. Is this a true statement? Elucidate me.
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I’ll have a go at elucidating you.

What is gender/sex? Is it chromosomal, hormonal, gonadal?

It needs a little bit of a break down of terminology and dividing “gender” into four parts (there might be more):
- Biological sex
- Gender identity
- Gender expression
- Attraction (to).

Biological sex (gonadal) forms at an early stage of pregnancy; gender identity (hormonal) develops at a later stage. And these may or may not align.

However, they both have a direct impact on the ability of a sexually dimorphic organism’s ability to reproduce.

Plotting occurrences on a graph we will discover a bimodal distribution (not binary) with the vast majority being male or female for both sex and identity but with outliers and crossover between the two main data clusters.



In contrast, gender expression (how one chooses to dress etc.) and to which sex/gender one is attracted have less to do with reproduction/continuity and more to do with selection and thus can be viewed as a spectrum (including attraction to neither and/or both).

Hope that helps.