[Serious] Please convince me gender is binary

[bennyboy]

There has been a lot of discussion on it lately, and there's a lot of informed and actual people that struggle with gender. Perhaps I need an education in gender identity, But I only see gender as binary. I'm open to be convinced otherwise. Let me start with a statement, which I'm sure people will jump all over.

I define gender normalcy as that which functions according to its design. Our design is in our DNA as male or female.  Gender identity uses the same words and is thus binary. Is this a true statement? Elucidate me.

PS- I don't think I did the serious tag right, I need an education on that too please

I am a transgender female; some of my earliest memories were of wearing make-up, my mom's dresses/skirts, daydreaming of getting married, carrying a baby within me, etc.  (But, of course, I am a biological male.)  And, so, what's the big deal?  What do you and yours expect of me?

There's nothing wrong with any feeling.  Feelings are feelings.  If you don't like the way men are expected to behave, if it doesn't fit you, then I don't see why you should / shouldn't behave in any particular way so long as it doesn't hurt anyone.  As I said before, an individual is worth consideration.  Given a world population of 7 billion, then the several millions of trans or non-binary people, that's actually a lot of people, and they deserve consideration.

But defining a species by rare cases like yours would be like defining it by any other rare difference.  There's no number-of-fingers rainbow: there are people with 10 fingers, and "other."  The others are not wrong to be other, and shouldn't be treated badly for being so, but it's a basic reality that they are a special cases. It's sad that people are treated badly if they haven't developed normally, but this is what it is-- some people haven't developed normally, and they are treated badly.

This movement to define either sex or gender as non-binary is a lot like defining us as a species with variable numbers of fingers-- it's true that some people don't have 10 fingers, but it's true that we are a 10-finger species.