[Serious] Please convince me gender is binary

[bennyboy]

Then, none of it should matter, right?  And, so, what's the issue?  Discrimination??  Accept trans as being people, and as long as such does not impact our employment in any area of society, then, there is no issue.  As for the "feelings" part, with some trans, at least, their brains are different, and those studies are available online.  Not sure if such is the case with me or not (haven't had a MRI or some other test to see), but, then again, it doesn't really matter too much.

Any time someone falls out of the bell curve in a psychological sense, you have to wonder if there's something else there as well.  People have the "creepy" instinct because others unlike them may pose an unexpected threat.  Trans and non-binary people are so rare that many people have that reaction-- and the media has been on both sides of that, with the Crying Game on one side (in my opinion) and Silence of the Lambs scarring (and scaring) an entire generation away from understanding.

That being said, this is the age of information, and I think that gay, trans, and non-binary people are very visible especially online, and opinions are changing quickly.

I'm very curious in the brain differences, as I've heard that too.  I also suppose that very many men might have a "feminine" side to them which might not be expressed for cultural reasons-- I do, I'd say, though it's more about style than any aspect of my sexuality.  If I could wear finger-nail polish all the time and not have people looking strangely at me, for example, I totally would.  I'm not as young, thin and handsome as I used to be, but for a straight boy, I was quite the pretty little peacock if I do say so myself.

I have a question for you-- how many trans women have a sexual interest in other women?  Is it rare for a trans-expressing pre-op to be in a marriage with a straight woman?  Would you even call them trans, or just cross-dressers?  "I identify as female, but I prefer to have sex with women" is a thing, right?  If I wasn't in a job and social circles that made it impossible, I can see myself going a bit this way:





I've made a couple threads awkward in the past by talking about suicidal contemplation or tendencies.  I verbalize it like this: I feel like a transplant in the universe-- it's not so much sadness or rage as feeling like wherever I go, I'm a foreign body-- tolerated in various degrees, but never really being OF any environment.  It doesn't even feel like a social problem-- it's more like an existential one-- it's about me and the universe, not about me and whoever I did / didn't get along with.

I mention this because I know trans people have a very high suicide rate.  I wonder how those feelings verbalize-- are they something like what I said?  Or is it something else?