[Serious] Please convince me gender is binary

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adam's apple..adam's apple... lol. The notion is that it got stuck in his craw, lol. Let that sink in.

But lets run with that. Gender identity is about characteristics as we conceptualize them in the gender construct, not traits as they exist in your pants. Did you choose to be "masculine" or "effeminate" to whatever degree you are either..or is it simply who you are?

I think I clearly delineated trait, characteristic and preference (even if my phone auto-correct messed up my anatomy). I grew up walking effeminate, it was a learned characteristic, not a choice. I could have chosen to change my posture to appear less effeminate, which would be a preference. Neither of those things is who I am as a trait. You may be right but let me try filling in my beliefs:
You say, Gender identity is about characteristics as we conceptualize them in the gender construct. My gender identity is male because I conceptualize my gender by my cock and don't have any cognitive dissonance with my socially normative constructs that contradict that causing me to be gender dysphoric. If I lost my cock I would identify myself as male and conceptualize my gender as male eunuch because there was no cognitive dissonance due to my gonadal operation. I might feel as less of a man but my chemical, emotional, behavioral and cultural status didn't change. So I guess gender identity isn't dependent on gonads, and my normative quick interpretation of my current gender identity is a conglomeration of more than just my dick. It is however, probably one of the most informing personal and societal factors of gender identity, most likely.

I believe what benny is trying to say is that even third, forth or other gender characteristics are contextually binary because humans are sexual dimorphic. You can say there is a man, there is a woman, but anything else is a combination or absence of the 2 terms.