RE: Raising Gender Normative Children
February 15, 2019 at 12:29 pm
(This post was last modified: February 15, 2019 at 1:09 pm by Acrobat.)
(February 15, 2019 at 11:03 am)Shell B Wrote: I do think it's an interesting theory. I mean, people can identify as whatever they want, and you won't hear me squawking about it. However, I do think you raise a good point about the social confines of "gender" making people feel like they're less or more of a man or woman because they like to knit or play baseball. That said, I wouldn't apply that to transgender as much as people "on the spectrum." Transgender individuals don't just like to dress like the opposite sex or play with Barbie Dolls.
In short, it's too complicated to say whether one leads to the other, but interesting to ponder nonetheless.
I think it applies to transgender individuals as well, but I agree transgender individuals can't be reduced to just wanting to dress like the opposite sex or play with barbie dolls. I'm saying for a transgender person, there has to be some conception of what it means to be the opposite sex, and what it means not be the sex they were born into. Meaning that both male and female, acquire some sort of embodied form, that can contain a variety of elements that they see represented by one gender but not the other.
So in my view the less restrictive, the less confined, the more fluid the meaning of male and female embody, the less likely I believe a child would identify with the opposite gender.
I have two daughters, but I hate pink, and princess dresses, and all the overly girly stuff associated with little girls, and they're too young to make such choices for themselves, so i tend to pick less overly girly clothes for them, prefer more neutral and earthly colors, try and raise them to be tough and resilient, etc.. Now it's possible once they get older, and by the influence of their social enivorments stear towards these "girly " elements themselves, but at some level they'll understand that these aspects don't represent what it means to be a girl, and not liking these things is perfectly okay for girls.
(February 15, 2019 at 12:11 pm)Aoi Magi Wrote: Teach your children to think for themselves, and then answer whatever questions they come up with truthfully, as much as you can. If you try to guide them on specific subjects, which they are not curious about on their own, you might end up doing more harm than good.
I plan to raise my children in the truth, which is my first priority. And since it's truth, they are welcome to honestly question it, or try and work through it anyway they choose, but they'll end up back to it one way or the other, in the end of any honest reflection.
When it comes to gender, I don't plan to make any conscious effort to shape their gender identities. I'd raise them the same way regardless if I had no idea their were people who questioned their biological gender. And the existence of such individuals, has no real impact on how I would raise my kids. I expect my children to be like me and my wife, where gender identity is not soo restrictive. If they came to us and said dad I identify with the opposite sex, I'd ask them why they feel that way, and why do they consider these aspects of their identify to belong to the opposite gender etc... but I don't really expect them to think of themselves in such conceptions. I want my children to be comfortable in the skin they were born into, and that how i would raise them
