sorry for the late notice

[Rev. Rye]

Condolences. Both for your father and going thru the estate process.

Yeah, that can be extremely complicated. I know that when my Grandma died, it took several years for us to get everything settled, and it took eight years to get everything settled. And in that time, two of her three kids died (including my mother.)

And losing one's father must be far worse. Unless, of course, he was an abusive prick. Still, if mine died, I'm not sure what I'd do.

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So if you know why he did all of this outside of some missguided attempt to 'make things easier for the family.' please by all means help a grieving family try and understand while we try and keep my mom in her house, bury my father and pay for a lawyer. plus not default on our own lives/debt.

I didn't know the exact nature of the estate process in Grandma's case, but I think it was handled by the family, and since my mother and both of her brothers made a truly dysfunctional brood (mother was diagnosed with Narcissistic and Histrionic personality disorders, one brother we strongly suspect is a sociopath, and the other brother, well, I think he was on the autism spectrum [so that's the side of the family I got it from], especially with his numerous obsessions, like Dr. Who and NASA, and while I don't think that played a role in the negotiations, the fact that he lived at home until his health started to fail certainly did), I start to wonder if maybe having an outside party do it might have been worth it. Then again, your case shows it probably wouldn't have been much better.