I've done some bad things. I like to look at past mistakes as data being fed into a loop. ie. Do something bad > Get caught > consequences > learning.
We can, and do, use this negative feedback loop to deter ourselves from doing it again. We want to prevent negative consequences. What usually happens for me (and from what I can read of your situation) is that we never change the negative loop to something positive. We keep not acting out of fear of not getting caught, instead of admitting that we were one way and we're not that way anymore and have learned. We don't appreciate the hurdles we have overcome by facing our problems and their consequences. I think it has something to do with the acceptance of who we are by accepting what we were and what we hope to become. I don't seem to have the time to fully articulate it here though. I'll probably write more on it when I have more time. This is a busy week though.
Seems like you're better because of it, so celebrate the positive transformation it caused instead of the fear and shame that you experienced then. Don't re-live the emotions of the experience when it happened, retrospect and celebrate in the now what it has done for you. </2 cents>
We can, and do, use this negative feedback loop to deter ourselves from doing it again. We want to prevent negative consequences. What usually happens for me (and from what I can read of your situation) is that we never change the negative loop to something positive. We keep not acting out of fear of not getting caught, instead of admitting that we were one way and we're not that way anymore and have learned. We don't appreciate the hurdles we have overcome by facing our problems and their consequences. I think it has something to do with the acceptance of who we are by accepting what we were and what we hope to become. I don't seem to have the time to fully articulate it here though. I'll probably write more on it when I have more time. This is a busy week though.
Seems like you're better because of it, so celebrate the positive transformation it caused instead of the fear and shame that you experienced then. Don't re-live the emotions of the experience when it happened, retrospect and celebrate in the now what it has done for you. </2 cents>
"There ought to be a term that would designate those who actually follow the teachings of Jesus, since the word 'Christian' has been largely divorced from those teachings, and so polluted by fundamentalists that it has come to connote their polar opposite: intolerance, vindictive hatred, and bigotry." -- Philip Stater, Huffington Post
always working on cleaning my windows- me regarding Johari
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