Deconversion and some doubts

[GrandizerII]

Ought is based on unwritten but agreed upon rules that ensure we live in a society that respects people's rights and thereby our own rights, because it's in our best interest that our (and other people's) rights be respected.

So it’s only on ought for those who agreed on these rules? Sort of like how Muslim cultures agree that woman ought to cover their faces, it’s only an ought for those who agreed to such a rule, but not for those like us that don’t?

Now perhaps you grant society moral authority, and the ability to assign to you moral obligations, I don’t.

You don't need to agree on any oughts, but if you don't follow the rules, odds are you will have to pay the consequences in some way. If you want to steal from someone, make sure you don't get caught, and make sure it's worth it.

Thankfully, in our society we tend to build oughts and ought nots on what we've been evolutionarily conditioned to see as oughts and ought nots. But we're not perfect, and there are some unfair rules as a result. And not everyone will agree to the same rules.

You can also set your own oughts and ought nots of course if you don't like the way society does it. Many people are fine with a combination of sources of oughts and ought nots.