[Serious] Relationships: Finding your perfect match and then losing them.

[Porcupine]

Every person in every couple you have ever met has failed in every relationship except the one they are currently in and even that one might end at any moment. There are plenty of fish in the sea, but you know what else is in the sea? microplastics.

I love that song. It really emphasizes that the other person isn't really perfect. I love Tim Minchin.

But I do think that the other person can be really rare and so rare that you will never meet somebody so awesome ever again in your mere lifetime because life is short.

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But what about the possibility that they were slightly too good for me. Not because they are egotistical. But because they really do deserve slightly better.  This may mean that I deserve slightly worse ... but it may also be true that they will never find anybody better than me but I'm still not good enough and they're better off alone. Is this making sense?

If they were too good for you, then they weren’t perfect for you. Is sounds as if you're describing an obsession and not a relationship.


Boru

Slightly too good for me but so slightly that they may not find somebody else as good for them as me but they're still better off, perhaps, without me.

It's not an obsession. Why? Because I can be somewhat happy and live my life without them. It's not an obsession because it's not a need and what we had was mutual.

I'm still just here left wondering what to do and having to wonder if I'll ever meet anybody that I want to be with ever again when any future person will always live under their shadow.