What you're describing as perfect is someone that fits with you like a puzzle piece. If you took 1 piece from every 1000 piece puzzle ever created how many to you think would pair up? Actually quite a lot because the dies used to cut are fairly similar and prevalent. People are the same way. You can have people that fit your holes. You can have people that match your picture. You can have people that are close enough on both regards. Whether they're "perfect" is extremely unlikely as the sampling size, time and place are so great. It is easier because humans are tribal that your "perfect" match is within your social sphere of influence. None of us are perfect. That doesn't mean a relationship can't be wonderful, beneficial, useful or lasting if it isn't perfect, which is the direction your logic is leading. Celebrate the differences in others and build lasting relationships in your life. Sorry you are dealing with a loss, but it sounds like your definition of the "perfect love for me" doesn't include someone that loves and accepts you equally as much. That could be problematic long term, all other things being equal. /2 cents
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